15 Aug Your Hurt Can Be Your Path to Healing

As I grew up, I was always different, I saw differently, I felt differently. Now in my 60s, I think so often: if only I knew then what I know now.

I expected life to be way easier than it is.
Yet life, by nature, can be incredibly hard.
No one really wants to say that, however, as we come to realise, the Truth ultimately does set us free.
You would not be human if you had not hurt. I mean truly, deeply, mind-numbing, soul-destroying hurt.

And if you are yet to experience it, I promise you that you shall. For this, my friend, is the human experience.
It is messy. It is confusing. And it is never, ever what you expected.
Life’s journey is fraught with the unexpected.

Every single Time I have been brought to my knees, feeling that I Simply don’t know which way to turn, I eventually-not instantly, notice I say eventually – remember our work. And each and every Time I say to myself, Why didn’t you trust it sooner?

The Depths of the Dark Night

The whirlwind desperation of the Dark Night is not something one can easily put into words.

The waking up with tears filling your eyes from a deep sleep that brought you no rest.
The sickening spiralling of the same story, flooding your mindscape, somehow imagining it shall lead to a different ending.
The sure certainty that if you tell the tale out loud it shall be eternally etched in your soul story, and not being ready for that yet.

The recognition that the world according to everyone else goes on without you, as it must.
The sun shall rise. The birds will sing.
Inside, your very soul is wrestling you to the ground.

When you reach this place, traditional talk therapy sometimes feels like an endless loop of retelling the pain. You begin searching for an alternative – a way to bypass the conscious chatter and actually heal the hurt.

My clients apologise through their tears as their pain is made manifest. My privilege now is to look into their broken, soft eyes and say, I truly understand how you feel.

The Line in the Sand: “I Can No Longer”

In my capacity as a Sacred Soul worker, under the guise of a therapist, I absolutely love it when a client says, I just cannot do this anymore.

They have reached their line in the sand. They can no longer, and will no more.

It thrills me. As I am unable to get them there. It is the horse to water scenario.
And the water tastes so much sweeter when you have decided for yourself that you have suffered enough and are therefore truly ready for change.

What transpires next in the journey of self-healing is truly remarkable, seemingly miraculous in its arrival and simplicity.
The alchemy of change is within us all. It may lie dormant, until it is finally unable to withstand the soul story being so betrayed.

The arrival of the moment is transparent and Simple. The road to that arrival is rarely, if not ever, easy.
Yet reaching the point of, I can no more, I will no longer, can become a springboard into transformation, if you simply allow it to.

A Self-Guided Journey to Your True Soul Story

Each stepping stone is actually a building block to it not being so, so very hard. The stripes you earn must always count for something.
I have learned that nothing is wasted. The betrayal, the heartbreak, the incredible disappointment, is all a part of it.

When I imagined building a community, I wanted to offer a place where you could learn to Tune In, to understand the threads we weave—the ones we pick up, and the ones we eventually learn to Let Go or put down.

Now, slowly but surely, I see and hear the gentle hum of a Life more easily lived.
It is actually happening. It is sobering and completing.

So, thank you for being brave enough to trust something you know little about. That Faith actually, is all you need to begin your own self-healing.

Blessed Be the bravest among you. Together, we might just change the world xxx

Take a Breath With Me

If you are currently wrestling with the Dark Night and need a moment of peace, you do not have to walk it alone. Download our free 7-minute hypnotic audio to gently regulate your nervous system and feel into whether this space is aligned for you.

When you have reached your line in the sand and are ready for true transformation, I invite you to step into the full, self-guided Elements of Life experience.